What Your Parents Think vs. What Is True.

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"Is he your boyfriend?"

Last summer when I brought one of my guy friends over, my mom kept an eye on me, making lame excuses to come to my room. After he left, she asked, “Is he your boyfriend?”

Why is it at the moment your parents see you with a friend of the opposite sex, they assume that you two are more than friends or have a crush on them? Have they never been just friends with someone of the opposite sex?

One thing that needs to be mentioned is that despite a child’s orientation, parents will stick to the widely accepted relationship standard which consists of a man and a woman. 

Parents should not believe their assumptions, until they have been confirmed. It causes conflicts where parents constantly check up on their child or they put pressure on their child.

Well, I have a solution. If you don't really chat with your parents much about your life or friends, it is not a problem. Here are some suggestions that might be useful at one point in life:

The more, the merrier.

When you want to invite your friend who is the opposite sex, don't just invite him/her; invite more than one friend of the opposite sex. 

Odd numbers is the way to go.

Math? No. Point is, do not have the same number of boys and girls at your house. That is, unless you want your parents to think both you and your friends are each in a relationship. By having an odd number of people, your parents will know that you do have friends of the opposite sex, with no feelings or benefits.

Use your convincing skills.

Convince your parents that your friend is already in a relationship.

Dress as you do.

When one of your guy friend’s is over at your house, dress how you normally dress at home or in general. Don’t go overboard with any clothing pieces or your parents will think you’re trying to impress your friend.

Keep at a mental and physical distance.

Do not whisper secrets or seemingly flirt with each other. Also, have some space between you two. You should look like two best friends having fun, not cuddling with each other even if it is cold.

As for inviting someone over that you do have feelings for, you should still follow one or more of the above suggestions.

Overall, deal with any misconceptions with confidence! Also, have fun sneaking around until you're ready to tell your parents the truth!

So, go have fun! Most importantly, worry about your safety.